Parents & Guardians

for parents and guardians

Welcome to Another Way!  I so appreciate that you have stopped by. I want you to know that Another Way is as much for you as it is your children. Perhaps, even more.

What is Another Way?

  • Another Way is novel for tweens to teen children, and for parents and guardians.

    However, it is not about villains, vampires, witches, or wizards! It is a very real book. Another Way is a novel about young people engaging in at-risk social behaviors and entering into sexual relationships before they are ready.  Without judgment or condemnation, but with compassion, Another Way challenges young people’s current thinking around what is normal and wanting to fit it, and offers them a healthy path of self-discovery and empowerment.

  • Another Way is also an educational resource for parents/guardians.

    In addition to the story, included in the Appendix of Another Way is a special message – Offering Another Way To Parent – designed to assist you in preparing your children to make healthy choices regarding their intimate relationships as well as engaging in other at-risk social behaviors.

After reading Offering Another Way To Parent, download information about Parenting Styles and Strategies.

  • Another Way is an essential tool for parents/guardians to begin a conversation with your children about engaging in sex, drugs, alcohol and other at-risk social behaviors.

 How to begin a dialogue with your children: Conversation Starters

  1. After you have read Another Way, download the Conversation Starters . Review them and choose the questions that are age or experience appropriate for your children.
  1. Set a time with your children to discuss Another Way. Even though you may experience some resistance, keep a positive attitude!
  1. On the day of your discussion, bring your copies of Another Way to use as a reference or to share certain passages. Begin with one of the Conversation Starters . Give your kids as much time as they want to discuss what is on their minds. As they open up and share, listen – really listen. And then, ask questions relevant to them and their feelings. While suspending judgment, embed your parental guidance and expectations into the conversation as is appropriate and needed.
  1. Before you conclude your discussion, set a date for the next talk. Encourage your children to write down their own questions or things they are wondering about! Even though the subject matter may be sensitive and difficult to discuss, let your children know you are there for them. It is better they talk to you than to listen to someone who does not really care about them.
  • Another Way is a valuable reference for parents/guardians in sustaining ongoing support and encouragement as your children implement the lessons in Another Way.

How to show ongoing support and encouragement: Circles and A Code

After your children have read Another Way, encourage them to work on the Circles (for girls) and A Code of Conduct (for boys). Or, if they want to create their own designs, even better! The goal is to get them thinking about their worth and value, what people or things are important to them, and how to implement actions which will support their choices.   As they are working on their Circles or their Codes, sit down with them and talk about it. This is another opportunity to keep the dialogue open, to find out what they are struggling with or what they feel good about, and to guide them in their decision-making. Remember, although there is enormous pressure for your children to fit in or go with the flow and at times tweens or teens may not always act like they want you around, parents/ guardians remain the most influential person/s in their children’s lives. Let’s be present and available for them.