Domestic Violence Awareness Month -Why Do Victims Stay?
In light of the recent news headlines regarding Domestic Violence and well-known athletes, and with the hope of shedding a bit more understanding into the victim's mindset, I offer this blog.
Mother's Day Can Be A Hard Day ~ And A Healing Day
There are no words that adequately describe the pain of a mother who abandons or rejects her children, who neglects or abuses or harms them in any way, or who violates their trust, love, and need for her. And it is extremely injurious for others whose mothers did not protect them from outside injustices or provide safety from familial betrayals.
Secret Whispering - It's OK Not To Go Home
With the holidays upon us and as we are faced with a myriad of expectations regarding familial traditions, customs, and gatherings, for many it is often a time of internal struggle and stress. Family allegiances and history pull at our heart strings while personal betrayals and private injuries beckon our need for protective distancing. Some time ago, I had the privilege of viewing a remarkable independent film entitled Shouting Secrets.
Inside "The Glass Castle," Parents Betray Their Children
"The Glass Castle" is a film based on the best-selling memoir by Jeanette Walls. It is painful and powerful. It is heartwarming and heartbreaking. Jeanette Walls, despite being raised in a chaotic and negligent environment, broke free from the bonds of family dysfunction and built a life for herself as an accomplished journalist.
Detached Families, Disconnected Relationships, and Distracted Students: 4 Non-Negotiable Steps To Reclaim Them!
Recently, I had the opportunity to speak to the staff of a comprehensive high school in Southern California about Screen Dependence. Because it is also a boarding school, I was able to connect with the academic faculty as well as the home-living staff.
13 Reasons Why: "Shaming" No More
Over the past few weeks, there has been quite a bit of buzz regarding the Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why. Because of my interest in youth, my background in cyber bullying, and my years of advocating for victims of all kinds, I wanted to watch it. I did. Today's blog is not about the controversies surrounding the series or the pros or cons of it. It is about one behavior - shaming - which permeated the entire story-line.
Collective Trauma: 3 Coping Tools for Adults, Children, and Families
Amidst an escalating environment of anger, blame, and chaos of the past several years, folks are hesitate to turn on the TV, or view their Facebook page, or see what is trending on Twitter. Although we want to stay informed, many of us feel overwhelming sadness over the ongoing traumas such as environmental disasters, mass shootings, and chronic political turmoil which are continually being replayed, re-tweeted, re-posted, etc.
100,000 Views! Self-Worth vs Cyber-Worth!
Being an author in today's times, it is mandatory to embrace as many of the social networking platforms as I possibly have time for. As much as I resisted this practice in the earlier years of my writing career - blogging, posting, tweeting, texting, pinning, face-booking, sharing, uploading, liking, linking, and so on - have all become part of my daily routine!
Environments of Betrayal: What Victims Need To Know and Do
Tragically, over the years we have heard about horrific cases of abuse, trauma, bullying and other acts of violence. Typically, these inhumane injustices are carried out within familial systems or are random crimes committed by disturbed perpetrators.
Domestic Violence - Peeling Away The Shame, Secrecy & Stigma
Domestic Violence is one of the themes of Awareness for this month. Sometimes, I feel like it is an issue that doesn't get the attention it deserves. Of course, October has other important causes - such as Anti-Bullying and Breast Cancer Awareness - but I also think that it is an issue that we are uncomfortable discussing. It often isn't until an individual has lost her/his life because of it or until a high-profile celebrity makes the headlines because of a domestic violent incident that it captures our attention.
How to Respect Your Voice - Especially in the Digital Age!
Many times our voice is disrespected because we are not as selective and discerning as we need to be in our disclosures. First, we must value the content of what we have to say.
A Silent Pandemic: A Longing for Authentic Attachment
This is normal. We have an attachment to our devices. In the 1950s, Founder of Attachment Theory, Dr. John Bowlby (1969), identified that “Prior to birth and from birth forward,” that a process of attachment – where there is a presence of “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings”— is necessary for healthy development.
Part Three: Family Is Important and So Am I - Choose Your Sources of Respectful Support and Loving Connection
Remember, you have nothing to fear or to lose by choosing yourself.
You have everything to gain.
Part Two: Family Is Important and So Am I - Choose Your Health
Although we cannot change the unhealthy behaviours of others, we can choose our response to them. Let's grab hold of another healing choice. It is time to stop hurting and… Choose Your Health
Part One: Family Is Important and So Am I- Choose Your Truth
This series is for individuals who have worked on their wellness, or for those who are currently embracing a path of recovery, or for those who have chosen an intentional healthy way of being which is much different from their family of origin.